My Chosen Path ~ A Poem To Ponder

A beautiful share of a poem from one of my favorite authors, and I call her my 2nd mom. She is always sharing her life wisdom with me and all her blog followers. Come meet Author, Marilyn Fowler and her wonderful blog. *Catherine*

A Special Author Update About Shaaren Pine & Scott Magnuson ~ They Were Shared In The Washington Post!

Hello Readers and Welcome New Friends,

One of my fun things to do here for my clients, is share their journey of all the wonderful things that come along with being an author with a new book release. And promoting ones books can take long hours, but when exciting opportunities come along, like being interviewed and written about in a major newspaper, then it makes the promoting hours worth while. I feel it also gives readers a more in-depth view of an author and their book.

And that is exactly what has come along for authors, Scott Magnuson and Shaaren Pine. So for all of us who don’t read The Washington Post, or subscribe, I want all of you to have an opportunity to learn more about Scott and Shaaren, and more about their amazing Memoir.

HAPPY READING Friends!

          When you’re an addict but serving alcohol is in your job description.


Scott Magnuson is part owner of the Argonaut, which he has operated on H Street NE since 2005. (Amanda Voisard/For the Washington Post
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When Scott Magnuson sat down to dinner at his H Street pub, the Argonaut, with his wife, Shaaren, and their daughter, Ara, one summer night in 2011, a casual observer of the little family scene would hardly have guessed that his marriage was imploding.

Shaaren could no longer handle Scott’s excessive drinking and drug use. He had broken so many promises and she had grown so wary of him that she kept him in her sight as he slipped behind the bar to order their food. When she saw him pour himself a beer, she took Ara and quickly left the restaurant.

With his wife gone, Scott went on drinking for hours with the bar employees. As Shaaren waited up for him at home, panicking, her husband was, she says, “snorting Adderall and walking the streets of D.C.,” wasted.

But when he finally dragged himself into their house on Linden Place at 5 a.m. the next day, Scott says, he was done. “I was tired,” he says. “For the first time, I saw the pain I had created.”

Scott had abused substances for more than half his life, since he began sneaking beers at age 14 from the fridge at his first restaurant job. From the moment he started drinking, he recalls, “I drank and drank until I couldn’t drink anymore.”

That night in 2011, he decided that he couldn’t drink anymore.
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“If you don’t want to slip, don’t go to slippery places” — it’s an adage often repeated in the 12-step world. For Scott, for years, no place was as perilous as the Argonaut itself.

“Working in a restaurant didn’t cause me to use drugs and start drinking,” says Scott, 36. “But being in that environment — it’s like fuel to a fire.”

He and Shaaren, 39, are sitting in a quiet spot at the Argonaut, openly discussing Scott’s addiction and its corrosive effects, which they describe in their recent joint memoir, “Torn Together.” They hope that the book and their 18-month-old support group for workers in their industry will help open a dialogue about pervasive substance abuse in the bar business.

There’s plenty to talk about. The federal Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration is due to issue new data on drug and alcohol use by restaurant workers this month. But in its last survey, released in 2007, 12 percent of full-time restaurant and hospitality workers reported heavy alcohol use, and 17 percent reported having used illicit drugs. Among various occupations, restaurant and bar workers ranked No. 1 for drug use and fourth for alcohol abuse.

Working in a bar is a career that comes with pressure to be sociable, to take the shots that bar-goers will buy you, says Chandler Christian, who has worked in the industry for years in various roles and has been at the Argonaut for the past four. “Traditionally,” he says, “the bartender is the guy who will drink you under the table.” Now, imagine if that bartender is prone to addiction.

“If you had an office job, you’d have been fired long ago because you didn’t come to work, or you came to work under the influence,” Shaaren adds. “But those things don’t happen in this industry. You can keep your job.”

Now that he’s sober, Scott is determined to keep his.


Scott Magnuson and his wife, Shaaren Pine, are speaking out about alcohol and drug abuse in the bar and restaurant industry. Scott’s own battle with addiction was fueled by the environments he worked in. They have written a book chronicling their story. (Amanda Voisard/For the Washington Post)
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Scott Magnuson met Shaaren Pine in 2005 at the Argonaut, a nautical-themed pub that was one of the first to plant a flag on H Street NE. Shaaren was 30 and drawn to the goateed 26-year-old behind the bar. He was wild, impetuous and almost instantly devoted to her.

Before long, Shaaren was working at the Argonaut, too, picking up shifts to earn cash while in grad school and be closer to Scott. There was hardly a night when the couple weren’t at the bar, cooking, running food, pouring beers, and then hanging out drinking in the hours after last call, stumbling home and sleeping late.

They were married in 2007; Ara was born within a year. By then, Shaaren was aware that what had been a phase for her was a problem for Scott. She would wrest promise after promise from him — that he would stop drinking, stop smoking and settle down. He would swear that he would, but then she’d find pill bottles in his laundry, which he would explain away, and later, alcohol hidden around the house.

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When a fire in 2010 shuttered much of the Argonaut for months, Shaaren re-wrote the bar’s employee manual to insist on a drug-free workplace — and no drinking on the job.

It was a change, she acknowledges now, that was probably aimed solely at Scott, but it seemed to apply to everyone but him. He was secretly taking painkillers and making frequent trips to the bar basement to sneak swigs of vodka.
How could Shaaren not have known that her husband was an addict? “I had nothing clean to compare him to,” she says. She has never used drugs herself, but she eventually learned that Scott had abused them the whole time they’d been together.

Also unaware of Scott’s addiction was his partner, Joe Englert, who owns stakes in 10 D.C. bars and restaurants, including 75 percent of the Argonaut.

When Shaaren called him to tell him about the extent of Scott’s drinking and drugging, Englert recalls, “I felt defeated and sad for the both of them because of how much time they had put into [the Argonaut], and that it was partly responsible for his troubles.”

But the business side was complicated. The Argonaut needed Scott, who, though a minority owner, runs the day-to-day operations. “You don’t want to scare away a good person like Scott by being overly paranoid or overly on top of him while you’re building a business,” Englert says.

By the time Shaaren called him, however, Scott had already left for rehab. After hitting bottom that summer night in 2011, he finally checked into a 21-day program in Florida

When he emerged and began outpatient treatment, he and Shaaren started Restaurant Recovery, a nonprofit organization that they hope will someday help underinsured bar and restaurant workers afford treatment. For now, they hold Restaurant Recovery meetings at the Argonaut on Monday afternoons, hours before nightlife workers usually clock in. Five or six people will usually show up to talk about their struggles at the meetings, which Scott leads. Upstairs, Shaaren will make time for the addicts’ loved ones if they want to talk.

“We’re not sure Restaurant Recovery will get anybody sober,” Shaaren says, but it’s important, adds Scott, for “people to see somebody that’s happy.”

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On a recent gorgeous Saturday afternoon, the brunch crowd has descended on the Argonaut. Eggs and wings fly out of the kitchen, and the bottomless mimosa’s flow.

While Scott runs glasses and hauls ice, Shaaren welcomes customers at the host stand. The two are aware of the irony of serving unlimited alcohol, but business is business.

When he first left rehab, it was hard for Scott to be around the pub. At first, he recalls, “you look at everybody else that’s drinking and having a good time, and you’re like, ‘Why can’t I just drink and have a good time? What’s wrong with me?’ ” Now, he’s not as bothered.

“He’s much calmer and much more at ease,” Englert says. “He knows who he is.” Scott has added a new tattoo to his heavily inked arms: a phoenix wrapped in flames, a mythological bird symbolizing rebirth and renewal.

Scott grabs buckets of ice during the brunch rush at the Argonaut. He once worked the floor regularly. Now, he prefers the predictable grind of the office. (Amanda Voisard/For the Washington Post)
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Tattoos marking Scott’s sobriety wrap around his arm. Some are nods to the meditation he embraces; one is a phoenix rising from the ashes. (Amanda Voisard/For the Washington Post).
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There are other signs of his new life, too. He works out almost every day and has become a devotee of meditation. And for the most part, he no longer works the bar floor, preferring the zen of the office on the Argonaut’s second floor. Hanging on the avocado-green walls are the certificates marking his successful completion of drug and alcohol treatment.

Scott and Shaaren have bought a second home, a cute rambler in South Bristol, Maine, where Shaaren has spent many summers since her childhood. They also purchased a little general store and cafe there, on the waterfront. Whenever Ara, now 7, has a break from school, that’s where they are.

Asked what advice she could offer to others, Shaaren pauses for a long time. “There are no right answers. You have to do what’s right for you, because the statistics are so grim,” she finally says. “I can’t say stick it out, because what happened with Scott has been kind of miraculous.”

Scott has slipped a couple of times, including last summer, when, he says, he wasn’t working out or meditating and drank to the point that he was sick. The relapses lasted no more than a day, and each has been a learning experience. Sobriety, he knows, is a tightrope he’ll have to walk every day.

To get here, Scott says, “I had to change my focus from ‘Woo-hoo, bar! Party time!’ to ‘It’s a profession,’ you know? It’s my job.”

THE WASHINGTON POST. . . .

Their book titled; TORN TOGETHER, is now available on Amazon, Barnes and Noble, and Authorhouse Bookstores online!
Visit their Book/Author website: http://TornTogetherBook.com
And, if that wasn’t exciting enough, they were also featured on their local news channel as well. If you’d like to watch this video? Just click on the link and enjoy!

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I’m Featured On BookGoodies.Com! I present my Author Interview.

Hello Readers, Friends, and Welcome New Visitors,

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My hubby Tom and I at Crater Lake National Park, So. Oregon

Living life in recovery and having mental illness can be a challenge at times to say the least. But I need to express, if it wasn’t for this handsome man in this photo next to me? I don’t think I would have made it!
I just needed to share that with all my friends & visitors here . . .

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Now to the fantastic news!  I have been featured on one of my favorite places to be. Book Goodies! Here is the link for all authors to get your own author interview too on BookGoodies.com And be a part of BookGoodies.net community as well!
http://bookgoodies.com

It is a great place for authors, and special place for readers. It’s a must for all authors to come add your books, have your own author interview, place all your book promotions, giveaways, and lower priced E-books all in one place.

So I am happy, honored, and excited to share my feature author interview with all of you! So, here we go!
Happy Reading Friends!
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“Interview With Author — Catherine Townsend-Lyon, Author & Recovery Advocate”

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About Catherine Townsend-Lyon, Author:
Catherine a TKG Publishing Best Selling Author and the Prolific writer of the book titled; “Addicted To Dimes” (Confessions of a liar and a Cheat). It is a powerful memoir of her life, and all she has endured, battled, and much to overcome. Her 8 years in recovery from addicted gambling and alcohol abuse proves anyone can recover, turn their lives around and have a beautiful life in recovery.

Catherine’s insightful journey of gambling addiction, living with mental illness and disorders, and a survivor of childhood sex abuse and trauma, parental & verbal abuse into adulthood, seemed to have created a ‘Perfect Storm’ for addiction later in life, and set the stage for addicted behaviors & habits, as she used to ‘escape’ her painful past. Today she is well-known and respected in the addiction & recovery online community, as she advocates to help educate, inform, and raise awareness of compulsive addicted gambling.

It is mainly what her first book is about. How one can turn to addiction when unhealthy underlying issues are not addressed in a proper manner. Her story is a haunting, dark, and sometimes hard to read journey of a woman clawing her way back to reclaiming her life back. Without polish or prose, Catherine gives the public an in-depth, insightful view of the dark side of gambling, and how she recovered. Her second and third books will release late 2015.

What inspires you to write?
What inspires me to write? Interesting question. Many reasons why I write, blog, and advocate is to be of recovery service to others. My book was purely a “spiritual intervention” as I didn’t set out to write a book or manuscript. I have always been a diary and journaling geek, but it came more important when I entered long-term recovery. I did however love to write poetry as a teenager, but then Life came calling. Today I write to share hope to others in recovery from this devastating disease called; Gambling Addiction!

My book however was inspired by, or what got me to write and see on paper, all the horrible things I’d done, been through, and almost lost my life twice from compulsive addicted gambling. I share in the beginning of my book, Addicted To Dimes, why I wrote my book. It was after I read a newspaper article of a woman who committed suicide in her Casino Hotel room. They rest? You’ll have to read my book for the, “rest of the story” . . . .

Tell us about your writing process.
How my first book became a book manuscript, thanks to a friend that is an editor of our local newspaper, and she needed a project for her finals in college. I just went and bought 5 notebooks of paper and starting writing about my life, and what I’d been through starting as a little girl. It just came pouring out of me for a whole year. So I guess I’m old fashioned in this day and age of computers. I didn’t even own a computer when I began to write all my words, instead I filled those 5 notebooks by writing what was in my heart and wrote by hand.

What advice would you give other writers?
I tell everyone when I’m asked this question, and the best advice I was given as a writer from my publisher at: The Kodel Empire Publishing Group (TKG) was, “write what you know, write with passion, and it takes many, many hours of book promoting to gain your readership!” . . . And boy was my publisher, Steve Laible right! Advice to other writers? Look over your publishing agreements/contracts carefully. If a publisher promises to help promote your book when it releases? Get It In Writing!

How did you decide how to publish your books?
Of course I mentioned above as to why I started writing. And how my book became a manuscript, thanks to my friend Julie Hall, at our local newspaper. But, she took it a step father, as she faxed the first 50 pages of the manuscript to a friend of hers who happened to be a local publisher here: http://kodelempire.com  He, (Steve Laible of TKG), called me and said my manuscript needs to be published to help others who are afflicted with addicted or problem gambling, living with mental/emotional health issues like myself, and would give many a voice who also endured childhood trauma and abuse as I did.

And that’s how my book; Addicted To Dimes came to be! I became a writer, and a first time published author on my 50th birthday!

What do you think about the future of book publishing?
I feel many authors are self-publishing their books on their own through many fantastic self-publishing platforms, it has changed the whole landscape of publishing. The big publishing firms are not publishing unknown authors any longer. Now a days, the big publishing firms won’t even look at a manuscript unless your already a NY Times best seller, a famous person, or even a well-known reality or sports star. Very sad indeed.

On the flip side to this, self-publishing has it’s good and bad points. Bad? It has flooded the book market, so it takes a lot of book promoting creativity to get your books noticed, especially when you’re a first timer. The Good? It gives many, many writers of all types, a fair chance to share their craft as writers to the reading mass’s. Yes, authors like, ‘E L James of Fifty Shades of Grey’ are a rare breed, an unknown going huge overnight, but a least we have that opportunity for our writing and books to be seen, read, and enjoyed by readers. Much of this comes from my business experience as a ‘Book Promoter’ myself.

What do you use?: Professional Editor, Professional Cover Designer, Professional Publisher

What genres do you write?: Non-Fiction, Recovery Writer, Memoir/Biography, Self-Help,

What formats are your books in?: Both eBook and Print

Website(s)
Catherine Townsend-Lyon, Author Home Page Link
Link To Catherine Townsend-Lyon, Author Page On Amazon
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So there is my Author Interview on Book Goodies. Yes, I did happen to see a few typo’s, but hey? well it shows no one person is perfect. I Thank Deborah at Book Goodies for the fabulous author interview.
And readers, make sure you go by for a visit and meet you’re next great book to read!
*Catherine*  :-)

‘Blackness & Police Violence: Two Peas in a Pod’ (A Real Life Short Story)

Has Happened To You?
Well it happened to my sweet friend Shaquana!

Well It shouldn’t!! And we wonder why we continue to have events like Michael Brown, Freddie Gray and ALL the others. It truly is “Time For Change” for our Police Departments in America!

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“If you’re not careful, the newspapers will have you hating the people who are being oppressed, and loving the people who are doing the oppressing.”
Malcolm X


In Aug. of 2013, I experienced one of the most traumatic experiences of my life. I haven’t had the courage and strength to write about it in its entirety until now. I was reading my regular daily selection of internet news, and I came across the craziest, though, unsurprising article. A woman, Kam Brock, was committed to a mental institution at Harlem Hospital, by the NYPD apparently for telling them that she was followed by Barack Obama on Twitter.

Literally the article title reads, “Women Held in Psych Ward Over Obama Twitter Claim.” Can you believe that? Apparently, the NYPD impounded Kam’s car for iffy claims, and when she went to pick her car up, the police were…

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Me And Da Duke

I keep telling this guy, {Trey} to start writing his book! He is a perfect example of WHY . . . Oh and I do love his blog too!
*Catherine ~ Lyon Book Promotions*

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Have I told y’all about the time I met John Wayne?

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The Duke. George Washington “G.W” McLintock. Rooster Cogburn….Sean Thornton…..John Chisum….

It was 1976 and I was 12 years old.

It was also the very same year of the bicentintennial birthday of the United States and the very same summer that my grandmother took us all to Disney World in Orlando, Florida and I discovered that really real magic existed in the world.

Okay, back to The Duke….

I was a Boy Scout in Shiloh, Georgia. My mom was a den mother and there were about 20 of us boys, all told.

We were at Callaway Gradens, Georgia for a Scout Jamboree and hoping to take the checkered flag in the Pine Wood derby.

There was a whole bunch of scouts there of course, from all over SouthWest Georgia, hoping for the very same sweet taste of…

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A Fantastic Recovery Book for All To Read! My Dear Friend Arnie Wexler and His New Recovery Book, “All Bets Are Off” . .

Hello Readers, Friends and Welcome New Friends,
I’m sharing this new recovery blog post here on my Book Promo Blog of a fantastic recovery book I just finished! If you want to be inspired by a man who has seen it all with gambling addiction and has long, Long-term recovery? This book is a MUST READ! All 29 5 Star Amazon Reviews too! *Catherine*